Romaq @Romaq@social.cleverlibre.org

I think about @georgetakei's "You can pee next to me" as referenced here: https://shortyawards.com/1st-socialgood/you-can-pee-next-to-me.

Takei can say that, as he is outspoken and a well-known part of the LGBTQ community. I, however, am a "nobody" and I'm quite content with that. And for *ME* to say it, it sounds on my ear, "creepy dude." I tried it in my head trans-fem, trans-mask, non-binary... nope... "creepy dude" echos in my head. I have the positive, affirming sentiment supporting identity and affirming agency. Just not the gravitas or established identity within the LGBTQ community to pull that particular phrase off.

And to me, that's ok. I *DO NOT WANT* actual "creepy dudes" stalking people, leering at them with, "Hey... you can pee next to me! Heh-heh... heh-heh-heh!" Uhm... no. HELL no! I'm glad for the opposition to the bathroom laws and how Takei handled his role in the opposition.

So much as I am with Mastodon, I avoid proselytizing. By that, I mean... I'm not going to people "preaching" Mastodon, how they should be on it, The Bird Site is a hellscape they should leave RIGHT NOW! Nope, that ain't me. I'm happy to talk about it, but it's not how I'd choose to start a conversation. Same for LGBTQ. "Hey, I'm a cis-white male but I support you as an ally and can we be friends?" Nope... Just... "creepy dude."

Now if I encounter someone trashing LGBTQ, I have friends and a bit of family in that community. And I'm inclined to jump in with both boots going for the neck. I don't know what it's like to be LGBTQ. I know what it's like to be "different," apparently to EVERYONE, and just not good enough. I had that from my natural father. I had that from churches. I had that in the US Military. I hated that I was so damned "odd" somehow until I learned to accept myself, my sense of humor, my view of life, who I am, and what I have to say. I'm a work in progress. I'm growing. But I have identity, I have agency, I have freedom of conscience, and I have a right to these. How is it possible anyone would see fit to deny this to any other human soul? And yet they do, and I see that. But not around me.

Anyway, I can't think of any cool catchy phrases to communicate. Best I can do is just be myself. I watch for opportunity to spread kindness and support, and I act as a voice where I can for those who are being stripped of their voice. I gotta be me.

@saila Thank you! I look forward to that read. 😊

@ichoran

I'm in the unfortunate position "life happens." My wife will be leaving soon to be with her adult daughter, so we are preparing. I'm also spending time together with her while her adult son is visiting with us for American Thanksgiving. Otherwise I'd have spent the time necessary to seriously chew on the document. I don't think the presentation (grammar, spelling, tone) is as serious a matter as the process behind it. I plan to cover the "dressing," to me that's easy stuff.

"Does this make sense in this context? Will it *REALLY* help? Can we *SUSTAIN* this?"

That's really the burden before presentation, and I wish I could devote the time necessary. But "life happens."

@ejg @freemo

#Minecraft involves SO MUCH yak shaving!

https://youtu.be/AbSehcT19u0

@trinsec

True, but we are hunting for a fortress in the Nether, so SOMETHING with gold is a given. :(

#Minecraft

Time with my friends and close family on Minecraft is just golden!

#Minecraft

@ejg

See my response earlier as not all who participate one way or another are necessarily acting in good faith at the moment of public rollout. "Best foot forward" is only fair to the ideas of the document to be publicly released and discussed.

@freemo

@ejg

1) First, was this sufficiently proofread so people don't totally freak out about a word of place and use it as a quote forever as "true intentions?"

2) Are there unnecessary and superfluous embellishments that could and must be trimmed to concisely and succinctly make the intended idea come across?

3) Are the fundamental ideas really sound? Is this really going to solve the problem, or just move the issue around for a while? Is this really workable in the opinion of interested parties who have had to actually deal with social systems for a while? Is this idea as "tight" as it can be made?

For the purpose of expediency to present something that offers better and doesn't look like a half eaten chicken sandwich offered to a vegetarian, a few days of eyeballs on it privately won't harms the larger public discussion of it. It isn't being done in secret and it isn't skulldugery to be dropped without discussion or consent unlike the actions it is trying to address.

So yeah... It'll be public, just give people a chance to scrape the ugly off before it's presented.

@freemo