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@artemesia

I dunno, as a business man I've never once expiernced any of this.. Never even heard of a bank being able to dictate how i rent my own property or at what price.

@evacide

@fredbrooker Yes but its important to note that an introvert in the psych sense doesnt really mean "someone who prefers to be alone". Your earlier description was more accurate "Gets energy from being alone"... we introverts can still love a crowd and be very outgoing and engaging with people. We just need to recharge our batteries after enough of that.

@fredbrooker Yup, that lines up with what I know of the type and myself :)

@fredbrooker There I am :)

@artemesia

That still leaves an open question for me if taken at face value..

why would they punish a bank agent by refusing them their bonus for taking an action that ultimately hurts the bank. Banks are money driven, so seems really silly they would punish their own agents for doing something that causes them to make money off it.

Also this is not something I've ever heard of or expiernced, when i buy a property (and thus become a landlord) I've never heard of a bank being able to tell me what price im allowed to lease it at.

@evacide

@fredbrooker Awww my type (INTJ) isnt up there :(

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@realcaseyrollins Tahts why for me personally I'd stick with punishments that involve me taking something away that I give them. Maybe its desert, maybe its access to TV, depends on what they enjoy...

If i am a good parent then I should be someone who provides all sorts of things for my child to support their happiness, things that can be taken away too. If taking away what I give my child isnt enough of a punishment then maybe im not a great parent to begin with and need to reconsider what **I** do.

I know as a kid for me computer and internet was important. All my mom would have had to do was turn off the electricity or the internet and it would have been a pretty impactful punishment.

@evacide But that still leaves it an open question... if landlords arent making the most of their property by leaving it empty, then why would banks want to avoid the chance of profit as well.

@realcaseyrollins Depends on the age and the style of parenting.

My personal choice would be to take away privilages.. whether its TV time, or desert or something. Largely because I think that teaches the best real world lesson... people wont (and shouldnt) punch you in the face int eh real world, but they may stop doing your favors or helping you out.

Of course then you also have "time out", sending them to their room, hell just talking to them can go a long way. If you treat kids rationally and logically from a young age they are quite capable of reasoning from when they first aquire language skills. The reason most kids cant is because they arent treated as such for many years, so they never learn to reason and discuss. you can get 98% of the way there just talking to your kids respectfully and firmly from a young age.

@realcaseyrollins

For me to qualify as a beating (including spanking) it needs to inflict some level of pain and suffering as a learning tactic.. if its just physical contact but doesnt raise to the status of "pain" then i wouldnt say it qualifies.

@niclas @AmpBenzScientist

@bonifartius

Not sure what "white torture" is?

@niclas @realcaseyrollins @AmpBenzScientist

@realcaseyrollins

A gentle smack ont he hand that doesnt inflict much pain is a non issue.. I wouldnt even call that a spanking, thats just a gesture, I'd do that with my friend if he tried to steal my food :)

@niclas @AmpBenzScientist

@niclas

Yea the fact that your parents employ effectively torture techniques (albeit it in lighter form) to get compliance is just disgusting... We have abolished it throughout most of the modern of world but people still think its ok to use pain and abuse to control your child...

@realcaseyrollins @AmpBenzScientist

@realcaseyrollins I mean your the one asking the question.

to me a spanking is just a very specific type of beating where you are inflicting pain on the child by beating them on the ass.

I think parents mostly use it as a euphemism for beating their child without needing to admit they actually beat their child.

@realcaseyrollins

Those sound like the same things to me.

@niclas @AmpBenzScientist

@niclas

For sure, i would call it out in private too.. In this situation she had done it in public and a bunch of people int he resteraunt gave her shit.. she came to me to complain how she was "disiplining" her kid in public and how she got in trouble.... this was when i learned she hit her kid and i lost it. I didnt see the actual abuse, she was coming to me to tell me how she was "unfairly" criticized for hitting her kid. My response was "good, they should have criticized you, your lucky thats all they did, stop beating your child"

@AmpBenzScientist

@TruthSandwich Funny how that works huh, its almost like being a shitty person and horrible president doesnt get you elected or something...weird.

@thor its a cracker more or less, by itself it will be like cardboard, just like any other toast or unflavored cracker... So that seems like a silly take to me.

Its all about what you put on it, and when you load it up right it can be amazing. Even some butter and salt is pretty good if your a toast fan.