anybody ever have the experience that being merely around a certain person just calms you down?

@thor Back in the day we used to call people who calmed down by being around others "psychic vampires".. the idea was it would cause thepeople they were around to get that persons anxiety in exchange.

Not saying thats you, just reminded me of this.

@freemo with this person it's more like taking Ritalin, but better.

"huh, wow, my head just went silent. i'm not thinking all the time. i'm not able to be bored or restless around this person."

they'll ask me what i'm thinking about and i don't have an answer because i'm not thinking about anything.

@thor

Aside from infactuation that is fleeting and a one or two time thing, I have had that with 2 people in my life... Even when i stay away for a decade and think that part of my character is "dead" and i wish i could be thatperson again.... all we do is hang out and it all comes back in an instant.

@freemo it could be fleeting in this case. only more time together would show, which will not be happening currently.

but i'm more self-aware than i used to be, so i notice these things more. "what did this or that person do to my inner state?"

@thor Any woman i dated that I asked out (so i was clearly interested before the date) I felt this way about... in those cases for me it was fleeting.

I think, at least for me, that effect when dating ties into the whole lust vs love thing... its bascially how our bodies react to what we think is love, but we are really bad at seperating that out from momentary lust.

PS: lust does not mean to imply it is physical or even superficial... just that it is based more on your image of the person than the reality, cause you dont know the reality yet.