At some point you must see the patterns and even if someone doesn't declare war or manipulation, to call it that.

( a lot of people need to hear it from the oppressor about what they are doing to realise it is what it is... so any clever oppressor will not tell you, and best is never tell you, so you 'never really know'... but over time you should know and stop giving that direction and behaviours a '2nd chance' 20 times... from individual or system that needs not guessing and making your own individual plan to solve (there is no waiting for others always and organising could be done but also let's the cat out of the bag too so choose well,.... but do choose as it doesn't get much better and needs curbing inside the system or workplace your in... so using existing rights get dialogue going... not just leaving (it's easy to say when you have feelings but suing your company or using it's own rules against it self is probably best way).

To exist work fighting rather than exit and someone else fresh to replace you (which is easiest for them). If you can make it incredibly tough, start all the human resources procedures, suck time and economic worth and then consider sticking more knives in.... until they break or get sabotage themselves by declaring and drawing lines clear for others to see (a lot is often unsaid which is EXACTLY how the technique works and I would like help others counter).