Emotional feelings often take priority over from the sense of logic... because logic needs more time to fit into brain, emotions are more of an immediate and sharp feeling)...

So emotions need time to settle sometimes to let logic fall into place for that other person after a bit of an intro and even some correction what the other person thinks it is incorrectly.

It's hard but knowing the emotion cycle of an individual / your partner can help practise this cycle (not always trying to improve it at the same time).

Basic rejection of a persons idea or suggestion (like "no thanks" to free beer) can result in unintended feelings for that person (person feels bad you said no) even if someone really doesn't drink beer!

Initially the feelings from the suggester to that rejection / no can be like they need 'retaliation' because of the feeling 'caused by that person' (which is really just the way the person offered and can't handle rejection).

Also for some new information or personal stance about the world that can also changes your emotions...

Often not intended but also perhaps perfectionism is also to blame 'how to do it right' or 'how the world is' even though there is much more than 1 ways to do anything for it to still be 'good' or 'good enough'...

and THE WORLD IS CHANGING or changed already and people didn't realise...

If people realise the hard reality or realisation what you said.... (or more accurately what also wasn't said in my childhood, society / previous years alive etc) then we all have to learn to re-learn / bite the bullet or breath in / out and say ok maybe this is the way it really is or just how this person came to see it!

Having some suggestions is ok but still allowing others a "neutral position" already (neither yes or no, just being themself) is best I feel and in my experience... and letting the other make there own mind is good without pressuring them to boiling point.

2 people are always different so being not pushed by your suggestion is actually helpful.
[The exception is perhaps if you can't say yes as some cultures can't or have societal training / etiquettes!]

Often a suggestion or offer to do something is a measure of self-worth or wanting to do good by that person so that person can be disappointed or 'denied' if they can't help someone else (like if I'm good with computers and someone says they have a problem... but on my offering they say they want to sort it out on their own).

Also from feeling of guilt people can suggest things to try and pay you back or pay tribute to you / praise you which can incorrectly 'make' someone else feel bad also!!... hidden stuff

i.e. help / praise / tribute is not always wanted or needed - but there could be a way need to find something else or learn how to relax and not pressure people for free beer or your own self-esteem boosted when giving to others!

Giving is good don't get me wrong but conditionally or just by shouting your own name saying "I did this..." is not the way either.

Sure a few times ask but don't be pissed - Also get the hint to avoid the "no fuck off already!" reaction... and for those that can't say no they understand some people will try to get reasons why and that is also your opportunity to manage that in practising or confirming why they wanted to help or conditions and effect of such action later ("do I need to pay you back for that?").

Any person that basically can't do things another way is giving you an ultimatum or perhaps feels they are in an ultimatum of there own!

Talking about it more is good to get the story right / better understanding.