ACCUSATIONS / JUST BEING HUMAN

(LET'S DO BETTER YEAH?)

I personally don't mind accusation... it can just be part of feelings, we should allow it to so level but this is more about when the bar is so low and perhaps the internet just being a further magnification of personal weakness (in communication / self-confidence / looking at positives more than jumpingto wrong conclusions / judging book by the cover etc). This post is all about that.

So then after accusation I demand (or feel) some kind of recompense or something is in order so people reserve their accusations until it something a bit more with weight or substance other than feelings ^^

something like:
"right ok I see what you mean now" ("sorry" would be bonus)

or "oh yeah I am late and I do continually ignore your reminders even though I said I'd do it"

or

"oh you're just faster at running (writing) than I am and that's ok it's you're normal speed and I'm slow in comparison, how about let's talk instead of text ").

I want to say that people's feelings I don't discount but if they feel things *before* asking or finding out the reality *THEN* it's the wrong way around... and people put others in position to defend what didn't have substance other than replying fast (some people prefer this some don't) or being sticky on a point (banks undermine the rest of the world using % to slave-drive others / owned them / have slaves via the currency and negative maths)
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EXAMPLE PEOPLE:
(INTRO) LOTS of nice chat happy. But strangely (illogically) even after perfect audio chat when back into text mode probably because of my speed or ability to solve points - people even in between nice stuff get the wrong idea or take it personal

recently EXAMPLE 1 @phryk who says very little but doesn't really want to hear but other than my 1 or 2 things I do (the kind of what's your 'job' mentality or "freeschool you asked to help me but I'm not prepared to participate in helping mutually or even myself" - that's a short version but not totally if but a good example of what can happen and game over DESPITE me writing a lot more.. I think this person just wanted to here "I'm a software engineer" and then could speak a language otherwise the "you came to me" attitude is just like "I can't be bothered" kind of thing. I sent links, asked them to look at stuff (which they did fair play) but that potential was over almost before it started.
Summary - need 2 to pollinate, trying to find mutuality or find open-but-personally-secure people is perhaps an issue in humanity.
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recently EXAMPLE 2
https://social.synergetic-design.com/@leo/109043946327664783
Kinda nice guy but would have been better to say "I feel" or "I'm finding it hard..." (which language can be blamed being non-native English... but still easy to accuse someone taking over when I just gave a few fast suggestions...
I mean really if YOU or anyone has a project DO EXPECT SUGGESTIONS and even someone excited or happy to get to work or something...
It's almost like people don't want project to ever progress or be suggested by anyone lol
"no it's my project"-
"err I wasn't even thinking that"
{no reply conversation ends suddenly}

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SUMMARY / LESSON TO SEE
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So if people are doing #1 or #2 you can see how unlikely it is to get connection or anything done

#1 was like "you came to me, so what can you do as if I'm a mind reader and not saying anything about links send"

#2 was like "this is too fast for me but I can't tell you that or realise you're actually wanting to learn faster than I can perhaps provide", or "actually I'm also unsure about everyone and my politeness probably inverts my feelings thus short-circuiting myself" (without being able to say it)

and then who can blame bad guys at the same time for taking advantage (a separate issue 100%, but they see what people are like and make governments at the same time)

AND

the countless people I simply showed / solved / explained stuff and *suddenly* they would stop arguing in exactly the same way.... (to be honest when I am close to checkmate it's hard to fold the game or admit I was stupid in my last moves)..
So after that no sorry or much further... I guess if you can play chess you practise / any sport you gain humility or being able to speak even about feelings... and even enjoy it outwardly!

People think it's also ok to get the wrong idea about someone (or even be silent) and then not be responsible etc when they are wrong or called on it... and while I'd be ok with that it seems it's a lot more so I'm flagging it as a human thing 'NOT DOABLE' AS THE VERDICT without blaming anyone here.

Again take this information as personal to see life for what it is for me (without it making it about me but I contact lots of people as I'm faster than you so it's the same thing but you really see people)... insecure people or "only-happy-in-a-project" people which involves other elements not good (EU grants, Banks or whatever) and anyone I've see even on Mastodon break project / relationship problems from again 'communication' ....doh!
Solve that, you solve many things folks!

People really got to be able to test people out too. I respect those that tried and even half those that didn't. Just the way it is now- seriously no chance to collab or work mutually unless government supported or funded and that is besides actual the point! People who feel better in jobs and feel secure somehow also isn't quite right... but unfortunately those guys are much worse then any individual like me - *their professionals at what they do* / legal criminals / extracting energy for xyz reasons)

FINAL NOTE
I reserve the right to amend this - and before you get defensive over others- they did have chance of interaction and mostly left it unsaid on the last note so somewhat it's solved or left like that... so this is my life feedback to improve- those not interested just find something else to solve!
(and then realise it ALL comes back to communication relationship or even humanity over as WEAK AS FUCK)

Just accept it's the truth or around-about-the-truth as I see and I obviously have examples...
No damage to anyone intended but life has to stop at this kind of weak or literally broken stuff.