This rings true, especially this part:
"The truly toxic idea, though, is that Mastodon instances should not only refuse to federate with Threads, but they should refuse to federate with other servers that do federate with Threads. In other words, users should be punished for decisions they have no control over and may not even be aware of, made by the administrators of servers they don’t belong to. I am dead serious when I call this toxic."
https://tracks.ranea.org/post/722507935765397504/youre-so-vain-you-probably-think-this-app-is
That does not sound toxic to me at all. That simply sounds like admins behaving as admins are. If an admin does not have your confidence for whatever reason, the natural response is to leave. "Just Leave" shouldn't be a foreign concept on mastodon, especially given the large component of twitter refugees.
Imagine a pub. The owner has the right to refuse service for any reason. Including but not limited to: doesn't like your clothes. If the owner is a dick, just don't patronise.
@oceaniceternity @tchambers only that this is taking the "just leave" decision on behalf of the entire pub crowd. Wouldn't it be polite to first inform them at least that they are all about to collectively be made leave?
@mapto @oceaniceternity @tchambers
The analogy is imperfect because the behavior inside one pub does not typically impact the experience of those in another pub, within reason.
Perhaps two pubs have gardens adjacent to one another and so the landlords decide to share that bigger space. If the patrons of one pub started ruining the shared garden experience and the landlord did nothing about it, the other landlord could reasonably reinstall the fence between the two gardens.
(Still imperfect!)