I don't understand why the solution isn't obvious: don't be a creep to anyone!
Like, you don't even have to deliberately set out to be an ally to people on the spectrum or LGBTQIA+, just don't be a creep generally! Why is this so hard?
You do great work, and I'm sorry you don't get the recognition you deserve, and even more sorry you get abuse instead. Thanks for sticking with it: you're how I learned about Far UV!