@JessSweetValleyHigh@spinster.xyz

@freemo @Jennifer_Lee @alex @Absinthe
Allow me to be perfectly clear: I don't give a single fuck if Freemo was right or wrong. He and I disagree on things all the time.

If Freemo with correct information or incorrect information requested to disengage and a spinster user continued to contact them that is a form of harassment.

Spinster is part of a larger community of federated instances. There are social conventions in place so we can all enjoy communicating with one another. It is a platform with the potential to teach and to learn. QOTO is specifically about learning and questioning.

At the end of the day though: No means no and stop means stop. Period.

If this were turned around and it were a QOTO member who'd continued messaging someone who requested disengagement they would be warned and properly sanctioned.

I understand that many of the women of spinster have been mistreated and abused on other platforms. They have been harassed online and in real life. I empathize completely with the desire to defend yourself and others from what might appear to be an attack on a fellow user, particularly considering the truly shitty way all of you have been treated.

That does not, however, excuse ignoring a request for disengagement.