@admitsWrongIfProven Good question, I asked myself that when I posted it...

How much I loved... that one I have down, I feel fairly universal love for everyone, at least in some sense. There are some edge cases that would need to deep dive into philosophy on "what is love" I guess, but otherwise I feel good on this point.

How gently I lived... not perfect but still pretty close on this one, I try to always be patient, kind, hear people out, forgive, violence is only a last resort and one I've almost never had to use even when justified.

How gracefully I let of things not meant for me.... this one is where I struggle the most, I do fairly poorly on this, poorer than your average person for sure. I do feel I have a good sense of when i should let go, but it is hard as I like to see things through to the end.