@kensanata I use autistici.org since like 6 years for emails, jabber, I had a blog there at noblogs.org and I used their VPN for a while (they don't offer VPN anymore though). I've met some of the collective personally, since we sometimes hang out in same meetings. As far as I can remember, only once the servers were successfully DDoSed, so services went down for a few hours, and once there was a security breach which they promptly patched... in general, you can rest assured that if they have a problem they will be transparent about it.

Their servers are based in Europe, you can check their structure in here: https://www.autistici.org/orangebook/html-en/index.html

I've also used riseup for file sharing, email and pad, but they are US based