i wish there were more women on fedi, y'all guys are cool but it gets a bit exhausting how much i have to keep my guard up sometimes. don't really understand how men can deal with that
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bonifartius 𒂼𒄄
@velartrill the secret is in the mute button :D
the worst offenders regarding to toxicity are in the "i identify as $x" crowd, imho. those are almost always pretty righteous.
@velartrill i somehow don't see very much of that.. or maybe i'm just really desensitized. i don't care much for it either though.
i'm talking less about self-righteousness (i mute those twats on sight) but the otherwise decent people who think it's fun and normal for men to randomly insult each other -- "banter," they call it. it's not very pleasant to be around (especially because guys don't necessarily always realize that my profile picture is actually me)