men like to act like they're tough and strong-willed and independent, but humans are social animals, not just the female half. the reality is that, especially when you're young, if you don't get signals from society that you fit into a role, that society desires and appreciates you in that role, the effects on identity formation can be catastrophic. there are ofc honest-to-god alphas/sigmas out there who have no trouble telling society to go fuck itself in the ass (or possibly doing the fucking himself), but most men, most *people* don't have the strength to stand alone surrounded by contempt and disinterest, even outright seething hatred.

small things matter a lot. smiling and flirting with a boy who's chivalrous towards you, thanking guys instead of laughing at them when they try to stand up for you, offering them emotional support instead of scorn and contempt when they're down, asking a man for help with something physical or technical and showing that you're impressed when he does, and so on. these are all examples of important signals that reinforce masculinity and tell a young man "yes, you've got it right, you're moving in the right direction." having never been a man i obviously can't know for sure, but i suspect a lot of this is subconscious, because a lot of the guys i've known seemingly underestimated how much of an impact these things have on them.

a huge part of the reason feminism has been so destructive is because female approval and disapproval has enormous influence over western men, and has had for a long time. you know the dril tweet where he's trying to be based but then "girls get mad" and he immediately backs down and "tries to remove it"? it's a really common dynamic especially for boys in middle and high school, and leads to them being shamed into sync with the female Hive Mind; we end up setting the limits on what is acceptable (or in practice, enforcing the limits that were decided on for us by george soros in 1994 in a meeting with hillary clinton, the rothschilds, the freemasons, vril traffickers from the planet Zeptar 19, the elders of zion, a silent albino child with long fangs and the head of a goat, and the fallen archangel lucifer)

the upshot is that young women have (in theory) a lot of power to change the culture for the better (since we're the ones who broke it in the first place). i have very liittle faith that we'll use it because we're too goddamn fucking passive, but those of us who aren't completely brainwashed can at least try to contribute to social pockets of calm and sanity around us