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Gender talk/ stupid personal shit 

Man, there a LOT of Trans/anti-trans threads on my TL today.
For the record: I do think trans people exist and if they think that as an individual that transitioning is the best thing for them, then I don't see any reason why they shouldn't be able to and I'm happy to respect their identity, pronouns, whatever.
I do however, think that it's something that shouldn't be pushed on people, especially children, who it might not necessarily be the best decision for, and I'm very weary about hormonal treatment etc. for kids under 18, although It's something that I would still take on a case-by-case basis.
Part of this is because of personal experienced in my life, being a rather feminine male who did at one point in his life think he was trans himself. It took me time to come to terms with the fact that I was a male who had a naturally feminine tendency and perhaps an interest in crossdressing. If I had made the decision to do anything permanent with my body I would have massively regretted it, and I am worried about other people like me who had similar feelings (especially when they're younger) but instead of working through them on a personal, individual, level, getting immediately diagnosed as trans and making permanent decisions that can't be undone.
I don't think any of this is especially controversial or hateful towards anyone, but I have a feeling that people on both sides of this issue on fedi are going to take issue with it. :shrug_kon:

@nina i can't speak for you, but i'm pissed because kids gang up to cancel a nearly 70 year old and his lifes work for bullshit reasons.

@bonifartius and, to further iterate what imho a better response looks like: just do your own foundation. nobody forces anyone into the fsf. if you think you can do it better, do so. just because you dislike how someone behaves, doesn't mean you can rip his lifes work from him.

@pants yes, that is what i mean. there sure are different mens rights groups with different opinions, but thats the case everywhere.
i have only read either anecdotes about stallman or misreadings of his statements, i'd even say "intentional word twisting" but i can't prove that intention.
the answer isn't canceling a single person. there isn't any discussion. the cancellers are right beyond any doubt, at least in their minds. alas, no one is ever completely right.

@pants

mens rights _are_ a thing as long as eg. men who chose to invest more time in their children than into their jobs are considered weak, as it means that it should be the womans job.

cancel culture is a problem, the anger of many gets unloaded on a single person, warranted or not. it's just lynch mobs with cyber. "down the memory hole with him!"

it doesn't even fix any problems, but silences symptoms of a fucked up society. the problems still exist, they only aren't visible anymore.

@freemo

@thor hey, they are really struggling. spam mail and bureaucracy has to be payed somehow!

@thor

> [...] i said "no problem, i'll go through it with you right here!" and he gave in.

10/10 move :D

@thor in my experience, someone using the word "toxic" for things other than substances is a good indicator of how much to trust that person in general :)

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