bonifartius 𒂼𒄄 @bonifartius@social.cleverlibre.org

On Suicide. A Twitter bro who was also good friends with mutuals killed himself. He left a child behind and also his girlfriend. His death was financial related. He killed himself over feeling like a failure over money.

A month ago he opened up. He was facing bankruptcy and financial ruin. I sent him vibes. Many others did. He still took his own life. Why?

I saw many friends go through the financial crisis of 08-09 and expected at least one to kill himself but none did. I talked some off a ledge. I’ll do this for others now.

- BANKRUPTCY IS NOT A BIG DEAL.

I had to help so many men understand this. It’s true. Bankruptcy isn’t what you imagine it to be.

It’s embarrassing. You feel like a loser, but you move on.

Two of my friends are multi-millionaires post-bankruptcy.

Society stigmatizes what is a pretty simple legal process.

MEN TIE THEIR SELF WORTH TO SUCCESS and MONEY.

Partially this is due to being a provider. Men who can’t pay the bills feel like scum. This is a weight men carry. Women carry a different weight which men will never understand. Women won’t ever understand how worthless a man who is broke feels.

If you’re a man struggling now…

Your children do not care if you are broke. I grew up poor. My dad was a kind person. It sucked not having money but it would have been worse to not have my dad.

As the economy falters, male suicide is going to SPIKE.

You will regret it if you harm yourself.

I have died before. Whatever problems you think you have fade away as you long for those you love. You don’t care about any of the stupid bullshit that you think matters.

Bankruptcy doesn’t matter. Love and your family do, and taking your life will only create new cycles of trauma in them, as people blame themselves and ask. “Why didn’t I do more?” “How did I not see the signs?”

You don’t want to lay that at anyone’s feet, especially over money.

You will get through it. I’ve seen it. I’ve lived it. TRUST ME.

The only way out is through.