@thor @freemo I think heterosexual women in particular don’t understand how much of a turnoff that virtue signalling really is. There’s this girl who last semester I hung out with and we kinda hit it off, I probably would have dated her if I wasn’t still healing from my breakup just a month prior to meeting her (I don’t want a rebound relationship + I could DEFINITELY tell she liked me lol). Then the break hits and every two or three weeks she’s on #Instagram stories preaching about how bad sexist men are and how women don’t need men.

Not that sexist men aren’t bad or anything, but virtue signalling like that makes people think you hate men and will keep you single unless you find a man with no self esteem. I said it before a few weeks ago (can’t find the post), but I’ll say it again: you can only really get away with that rhetoric in the dating world by being non-heterosexual. Lesbians will especially be pleased by the results they receive.

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Yea, its a fine line, and it depends on nuance.. like if she was just getting hurt by men and saying "men suck"... it might be ok and all... But what gets me is that they say things where the reverse would completely offend them.. like if you posted every day "women are horrible people, the world/me doesnt need them" you might look like a piece of shit too :)

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