As someone pointed out you should consider the #UFoI You can either join it outright or remain independent and adopt our code of Ethics.
We are new but we already have over 200K users joining when we kick off in the next few days. Its basically an alliance of instance admins who agree to be "good-actors" by adopting a minimal set of moderation ethics.
You have the advantage of being garunteed to get to federate with the rest of the UFoI
Check out more info here:
https://qoto.org/@freemo/109433298021890915
Any one is welcome to join even new instances with no users yet.