girl briefly i dated who wasn't ready for a relationship and is now an online friend because she had to leave town: *went on dating sites, got 300 likes, but hardly anyone replied to chat*
me: *went on dating sites, hardly got any likes*
end result: kind of the same, really, except she got more false positives.
your average guy swipes right first and takes a closer look later. machine gun strategy. throw things at the wall and see what sticks.
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@thor when you say they didnt reply to chat... do you mean like regular messages.. or like live chat (I know OKC and stuff like that have two ways to message, live and slow like email but on their site)?
@freemo most dating apps open a DM window if you match and that's what i mean
@thor Ahh I see.
It has been a very very long time since i used any of those sites (not cause of my GF thats only the last year, i just got sick of the low quality results)...
That said I remember on OKC that live chats were very ineffectual. Id have to send off a **lot** of messages to get responses.. maybe like one out of 30, and most of those didnt last more than one or twho exchanges... one in 50 might be a long term exchange
But the slower messages I seem to recall having more responses. I think this is more true for men cause the slower longer messages show more effort and the chats feel "lazy" as if a guy is just casting a wide net.
I can also say no matter what the medium if allyou do in response to a life is say "hi" or "hi, how are you" you will not get many responses at all.. If you lead with something interested you get way more. I have literally had women ont he service tell me multiple times they dont reply to just "hi" and only respond to people who make an effort in their first message.
