One of those counter-intuitive, backwards things that works forward in terms of human advancement...

If you expose yourself measurably and encourage a regular circle I can *guarantee* you will find progress (unless everyone is quite perfect)
We learn much less without being open (even reservedly open is ok)
We can let culture die purely from not practising circles and admitting things and then offering help but accepting if people don't want (like me and my google thing trying to get people off it and trying not to be angry about ignorance)

NOTE: You can also learn a subject and without exposing ANY human vulnerability or humanness this kind of knowledge leaves behind actual human change or contact. I measurably feel this is true when you don't put human in the picture or flow chart.
In the end I think is where we're at most often.
I vote to speak more in a circle and take take turn moderating / having fun!

I don't want to hear about the safety, nobody is on Mastodon yet lol ! Jokes aside if we hear each other speak and question enough we take care of all this as long as we're not too pessimistic (because that also puts people in the defensive positions / labels them). This is a community effort and this I feel is part of it... especially since all around culture(s) and culture of socialising (local or online) is dying or limited to text.

Human heart and soul come out even if it's protectively.