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Hidden Politeness damage.... Not sayign the obvious... telling people but then not untellign them... 

"Hidden Politeness damage" - when people say something but more infer something - so eventually there are not clear and can wait too long / not deal the dirty / spit it out

This works (to not be so direct) but also doesn't work - so I prefer clarity because then you can see if the exact point the person is pointing is wrong - but is the moer battling style which prefer not to do in staying on the 'ambiguous' forever style AND EVEN WORSE DISLIKING YOU FOR IT!
If people accept the logic "that's the way he does it", and "it needs a bit of time after I say it clearly" and accept people heard it, then that's great.

The other way is inferring and winking about it all day long and the other person not understanding it or doing something else thinking it's obvious saying YES I understand and then it's not the same understanding at all (usually when then people find out you did something 'wrong' and you say "oh that's what you meant' or why didn't you tell me when you saw it ---- > because you're a chicken / don't want to practise harmonising?)

Come on people, get a bit battle test then have some lemonade together....

Another example- If you tell someone to do something with the plants, like water them every 2 days, then do tell them again when to change even if it's obvious.
Summary: What you switch on or tell people sometimes you also have to remember to switch off / tell them it's fine / enough.

People are shit then they blame others for forgetting or only being there some of the time to check things themself.

Moan over... BUT practical points
Maybe only when you come across it, you will realise "ah I should have told them or checked with them!"

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