More deeper your relationship, more divisions will be found...
*** But... at the end of that process*** comes something of an unexpected flower or bloom that happens:

- just acceptance and understanding, and if not that
- acceptance and understanding of their THEIR OWN priority oe values list which means something unique you can wonder at like looking at the sky or another animal... since they are not you (no two people are the same / many combinations of things).

This is not to over romanticize but people are quite well wonderful beings / special !

So not just reading a book by it's cover or the first thing you see about them (even if it's good/perfect) but going the distance more.
You can also do the process by picking people randomly or from a pool of safe people and let time fill in the fragments from a random start since all can be quite random and all needs finding out more about without being too fast and furious about it and more casual regular tourist perhaps).

At the end with more pieces to the person you re-evaluate their priorities, which order they do things, real examples, hanging out together feeling and rate them accordingly for their strength, weaknesses AND unseen things like learnability, logic, imagination, joyfulness... which can all act as multipliers and turn things better or help in some way (like not blaming you but just the way that it is)...
hopefully most of it from negative to positive or staynig neutral too but still accepting negatives for a while between friends is actually the real normal and part of the human cycle we shouldn't be doing less of but encouraging a bit more of both (if you agree people are bit more shy or feel burnt already or listen to what their parents said).

Of that human being you can see more and more, and even compare them to yourself a bit more neutrally about what they do (it's not the first way but friends generally like the other or like the yin yang or it's something they already don't have and even compliment themselves with you the hang and learn and have fun from... if not just be there silent!).

What you prioritise in yourself (your own internal ordered list) can be matched to theirs... what their quest is or aiming for... without using them for your own means...
Just if what they say is fairly true to themself or others... and how they go about it... how often do they listen... are they forceful... do you want more direction from them?

And in the end if you're not afraid or threatened OR can manage it well the overall aim of education / self-learning and all that shines through as the objective itself and everything that happens can just be good material for the processing in between (pollination somewhat like planting two peppers together always to increase chances of receiving more pollen (or understanding and experience) together rather than alone much more isolated / less chances in understanding)

My aim is to be friends with everyone or all on the journey while managing what that means too to others and pressing it if really they say it's not (yet) for them :) as somewhat there is no escape from being human so might as well enjoy it / be ok with others!

Planet + more friendly people = Bit Better Planet.

Something like that.. I want for your happiness while not being too pushy about it and I think that works for everyone else :)