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Differences in Defending Yourself and Defending others (Psychology)

"I will defend others to the death, but for my self I might let bullying happen or be treated badly". (so for others defend but not defend self half as much)

A lady told me this, that for others she'd defend or go the extra 10miles (even unnecessarily) but not stand up for herself / take being spoken to badly.

For me this taps into a regularity I see with people (combination of low self-esteem / high insecurity but for others wanting to please / be looked well upon so works differently in different situations)

Something about human nature in that; pleasing others but then not knowing how to command one's own ship / being afraid of standing up and potentially being in a fight about one's self-respect (which a female may feel the lesser for many physical and psychological reasons)...

Females mostly (or males inversely can think they can do things but it's false self-esteem / overkill).

Also in terms of attack and defence people are often quick to defend others (correctly and incorrectly) but for themself might go into self-doubt or depression, worry etc. This more person combat I think creates adrenalin and nervousness whereas externalising it or repenting others moral is comparably easy.

"there’s a simple pleasure in focusing on something tedious."

This magically captures a kind of efficiency and wonder in the world I have. It's the spending of time well without too much scale or amplification or leverage.
The wonder of focussing on small almost boring things which at the end are great / timeless / modest / repeatable re-creation / sustainable.

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Law seems to make things infinitely difficult... especially whistle-blowers (Julian Assange, Reality Winner https://standwithreality.org/)

"The defendant is no longer innocent until proven guilty and finds herself stacked with the entire weight of the US government on her."

What is said in Assange's hearing, Assange cannot hear, because he is kept in a glass box. He has to get a summary from his lawyers — but not very often, as they are forbidden to speak with him in the court.

https://stallman.org/archives/2019-nov-feb.html#28_February_2020_(Mute_justice)

I thought about why I would write this ...

-a bit of Virtue Signalling perhaps
-or self-bookmark...
-support for a whistleblowers Julian Assange and Reality Winner (https://standwithreality.org/)

If you have information about your company and bad practices-
RELEASE IT THROUGH ANOTHER MASTODON ACCOUNT WITH THE BASIC METHOD (NOT TOO SPECIFIC DETAILS).

LET THE TRUTH COME OUT THOUGH... (NO NEED TO IDENTIFY YOURSELF BUT IDENTIFY THE CAUSE/METHOD/EFFECT/RESULT)

..."the Espionage Act 1917 makes it nearly impossible for a person accused of violating the law to defend themselves."

TL;DR version - People like to believe life is possible only in it's short and simple version... No life is not!
It's a chain of lots of things, so better get learning it all (in small AND ALSO bigger chunks)
(... with people's emotions and connected things!....)

Longer version - People prefer short writing but overlook it's
a) not the whole story
b) not a skill everyone has

(give this author a break and I don't mind you skip reading the rest!)

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And even if you have the skill of summarising (which I don't think everyone has) telling people in short can feel rude, out of context, or abrupt, misleading, disrespecting more things in that actual process

Usually the main thing is realising who you audience is and what it's for but almost ONLY of it's under tight control conditions but otherwise the whole of the Fediverse means it's also more upto those readers who enter the realm of blogging to see / speak with some people to see if they are a 'good egg' and go from there rather than expect something PERFECTLY short or emotionally clear as crystal !

We're humans remember (unless you're culturally machine-like like Germans or parts of STEM mentality that actually cut out human parts <--- partial joke about Germans but many culture or engineering processes or languages don't care about nature or people)

TL;DR short descriptions I think are very often possible and worthy to try and add but is a mini-art in itself risking it with the assuming skill of writer and if writer can categorise it well (this post could fit a few things)

Writing I guess should always be explored or not taken at face value for those that would like to write and explore things themselves) so 'writing' in itself doesn't match TL;DR which is 'shorter writing' (it's almost opposite to writing unless it's a status update or functional "I'm out to the shops - be back in 20mins"

Short descriptions need thinking what light to write it in...

This brings us to the next main point that LIFE is a communal / shared thing - it's not just my view (even my view is made from yours and 1000's of others, and if suffering etc is also constant naturally and less-naturally as humans then it's collective view and concept not just me detached from environment or me detached from you even! <---in a roundabout way )

Usually facts or mechanical ways are preferred in TL;DR versions but this doesn't suit a lot of life!

So if it's a life thing (full of chains / domino effects) or emotional things.. then what do short descriptions expect? To reduce the emotions or write generically for everything 'emotional feelings about xyz' ? (ok that actually seems to work but then you would still have to read more !

So TL;DR for many parts of human life becomes just another title for what the post title or intro would be anyway... probably

I like that the short version 'forces' me to right key parts but still it's like saying this post is about "hitting bat with ball" but needs lots of description and additional video to explain that process or which bat and which ball, the side-effects (spin / trajectory etc) and for humans that's emotions and internal stuff, not technology external stuff.

I wish Mastodon had a 'Show more' option (like the CW / Content Warning does) but so far no luck on that... even though it would be exactly same as CW just without the status of CW... showing a show more button... technology also encourages good practice sometimes even if box below the button could lead to more details.

Emotions are not short, and therefore forcing TL;DR modes is like cramming human thought through thin mechanical tubes, instead of more appropriate therapy like sessions where you get to the bottom and answer why a human gave such output at the beginning or expression (by going through the HUMAN layers and also helping people see what they mean too)

TL;DR for it's inappropriate usage (more-human things) is simply cutting out this process or expecting people to do all the humanity work (which itself is listening and responding - or harmonising). Machines are the one's with 'perfect' protocols so as humans one must assume more time and less skill in various ways.

P.S
IF YOU SEE SIMILAR STUFF LIKE THIS WRITTEN ELSEWHERE THEN LET ME KNOW SO I CAN SIMPLY LINK TO IT INSTEAD OF THINKING IT IS HARDLY SAID / ANALYSED

Did write it fast (today was a monster day of writing about TL;DR / short version - just the other posts out even if it's just for the pictures lol you TL;DRer!

#TLDR - TL;DR or tl;dr - "too long; didn't read"...

Once you see how "poor Africa" or any cause is be monetised and donations suddenly accepted by companies then it will help you to see how the same people (often who caused it in the West) and the same governments and banks assisting those companies are the very same doing both 'good' and the bad.

They are the same in how far they will go to make money repeatedly for themselves....

Helping or freedom wasn't really seem historically there on the menu, unless it was to take on a bigger giant... and then kill each other after!,,, which today means financial strangulation / coercion / cornering them after said giants are dead and temporary agreements are done.

e haven't moved too much from this type of government program which moves on to force / pressure / exploit the next targets on the list (everyone).

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To give water and have them as captured control points or give laptop to those that 'need' it with Gate's Windows on them; basically using whatever possible with pictures to show in whatever way what is 'possible' to help others... when at home it's also the same with money... the same self-ratified reasons apply from the few people with T-shirt there having little effect in the middle of nowhere to stop the same people taking advantage of them.
(you get the loop happening as hallmark of any expanding empire)

LiveAid style advertising and take a % from donation by the banks and only to put 1 single African performer.

Not saying it's all bad (err well that's what I should say) or that it's always measurable other than how much % they pay banks and themselves or say they need for infrastructure BUT all governments and banks with such track records of helping war or making $ out of aid should be assumed more to exploit or take advantage than actually aim for equalising or bringing people to their own country for *suddenly* non-profit reasons or to help people more than use this moment or transaction to help themselves first.

Just saying "it's the same people behind all the rackets" so don't try trusting banks and governments for a moment...
you're on the outskirts of the CUT-THROAT BUSINESS which is ultimately armed at that level...

Trusting something in our own hands will take time (i.e. from our own freedom and our own ways of allowing people everywhere to live with less economic pressures is what is really going to work)

Not even money mis-managed by the same global banks will have long-term effect. The reality I feel and track record / template of most colonial empires still having left their on places like India and asking people to pay English damage.

We're in a bad place but fixing everything almost from ground up is what is clear at least. Banks at a the source of feeding bad things...

For all those who think Banks don't pick and choose, go for profit, or provide money to one or more sides of war. or think they are not responsible and neutral- WHICH PLANET ARE YOU ON?

This is England baby... I mean Earth... :)

We need to end for-profit publishing altogether and rebuild our communication and review systems.

- jonny https://social.coop/@jonny/108638703345706557

We might be all considered 'useless'* but the key is to put that 'uselessness' together and make something out of it.

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This is how even the lowest of "low-value" people I feel can come out from being scored as 0 (compared to a specialist) and still hit well as a score overall and even sometimes score better collectively than a specialist (sniper vs. above average soldiers or universal soldiers)

* "useless" here means the opinion of a pessimistic casual observer that someone (anyone) is seemingly unuseful because that person doesn't see that their distant perspective clearly restricts their view (especially if pre-disposition is to be a sceptic / doubtful / pessimist more than looking for positives and working with many good points)

Even liking people is a better start, knowing they are often impossible to be that bad (it's hard to to find a terribly un-able person once you talk to them!)
Looking from the outside and without deeper conversation obviously leads to people seeing people as less useful.

As always, just takes more time to find it.
And even some skill by leaders to use it which could be said for modern day rulers standardising / boxing people badly! (In that sense there is not enough boxes / choices for people to fit in!)

What stops Human progress?

- Paranoia / Self-doubt / Lack of Self-Confidence

- Accepting Individuality / expecting people to be like you

- Untested Methods (fear / scared of breaking things etc)

- Text filters / Email-only ways / Trying to mimic machines...

TL;DR Awards - Richard Stallman
[2022 Winner... so far]

The "Too Long Didn't Read" award goes to Richard Stallman for:

- Time killing
He would read what would be enough from my side and then ask "Can you write that in 10 sentences or less..." when it was said in many ways he could summarise instead of asking for more text he couldn't handle lol)

- Illogical Repetition
Even in less than 10 sentences he did not answer many things which would seem very similar / aligned. That was measurably strange / illogical for me.

- Spent time writing many emails to me but seemed that was mostly it (felt like he was waiting or not sure but never said)

- For not jumping out of text and into audio chat or another way to alleviate limits of text (which I believe many in technology don't even see the point of... like 'why to talk?' or 'forget being human just text only'

- Didn't see it saves time to talk or even try it.

So for unsaid reasons...despite answering whatever else he wanted to answer in my previous emails... I declare a lot of TL;DR here and possible selfishness (though there may be another 2022 winner hold tight!) and again I wasn't expecting much but the fact someone doesn't say fuck off is also an indicator

- Saying himself he doesn't know how to deal with many emails
(*despite my solution* of just audio chatting for 10/20mins instead of 10's of emails at least with me which killed time on both our side. I gave him Jitsi link to audio chat (or BigBlueButton would be ok) but no bueno and no answer why not to try.

- Mr. Stallman didn't even say why not for many things or even accept it would save time of 1 chat instead of 10's of emails incoming and outgoing (reading and writing etc) ^_^

I have to admit there is a heart in the picture because:
- He did reply
.. but there was *some* *very selective logic* and you probably assume any hero's or fame is sure to overwhelm people

BUT when we solve the email problem (which for me is audio chat) then progress can be made).

I told Mr. Stallman on a lack of will or trust basis I felt I had to withdraw.

Overall very fast to respond but was a bit avoidant at many DIRECT questions I even repeated simply in 1 line and asked politely !

(I wouldn't care if he would say a bit about why not or even no or something but would continue as if I didn't write - and that's a sure TL;DR person)

Nice guy - can't do his emails (as most can't) and can't jump into audio chat after 10+ short AND long emails.

Gotta learn to change weapon sir Stallman of the Good-Guys.
Time is ticking.

#TLDR Awarded / Didn't answer many parts / Could use audio chat instead

I could re-write this but it's probably not worth my time until I'm motivated- but at least you got some insight for now and if you have a brain can pick the best and learn from it, unlike some people... ^_^

What is TL;DR - A Series of Habits

e.g. Long Text Obfuscation
(deliberate use as a weapon or trick against others to build walls / rules / punishment programs using layers of text / paperwork as a buffers from the bullies / abusers who would like to distance themselves from their targets and keep hands clean using middle-men enforcers)

e.g. Legal Construct / Legalese /
(same as above but used against people by demanding more time and intelligence to understand AND/OR requirement to use expensive lawyers who always swear allegiance to the 'Court' or authority they are a member of + often also play an inside game / collude internally / can be bought)

e.g. Complicated Computer Code (a mix between user and developers code to lock others out - not always intentional but can end up being 'for the people' but unusable 'by the people')

All the above have a mixture of...

a) natural complication in understanding / transferring any theory or practical, which can naturally reduce tolerance or add a higher boundary to jump in any understanding but helps *when readers continue even if they don't know why it's useful* and seeing how believing it's worth reading actually can get them there in the end... (like teenager that doesn't want to start anything and then suddenly is all in to it and doesn't want your help any more).

b) deliberate layering to hide / nest intentions and trick people / make it more demanding / exhaust people effectively weaponising it against people from those creating and those unable to effect or have a say.

(which still doesn't mean it's ok to not to read or not to at least acknowledge a problem / deliberate tactic because it needs dealing with / incrementing in life and *NOT* ABONDONING*)

#TLDR

What is TL;DR - A Series of Habits

e.g. Lack of self-motivation
e.g. Lack of self-direction
e.g. Not seeing the point / sticking to themself / "I'm OK Jack"
e.g. Not finding interesting points of relativity (between others or subjects)
= #TLDR

What is TL;DR - A Series of Habits

2 Main Usages:

1- to say text has been ignored because of its length.
(An internet slang)

2- Used to introduce a summary of an online post or news article (like a summary)

#TLDR - TL;DR or tl;dr - "too long; didn't read"...

Those who care too much have to also realise that when it's too much for others they need to moderate their actions with those who feel it more or act on it more rather than those that care less.

It's pushy and even aggressive-like to alarm others who simply don't care so much or see problems much or can't see it long-term.

For example - My 'cause' (our humanity) is relative to survival and ethics *but still* it can be seen as aggressive by others to care so much even if it's about being cheated out of life / unable to escape traps, not having consent etc... so people need time and hopefully crisis first before reality comes to the foreground.

(Not sure about the last line, but ignoring things and constant parts of reality = crisis... and then after that people can work on it)

How much can we take before we call it rape?

Inspired by lyrics:

"With how much we can take
Before they call it rape
Everything that we create
Seems to get thrown in our face
To make it easier for the race
And harder to escape"

- The Growlers - Graveyard's Full
#FreeSchool #Lyrics #Quote

https://www.azlyrics.com/lyrics/growlers/graveyardsfull.html