@brianokken I tend to be opposed to proprietary services like Discord and Slack in general, but even if it were totally open source and decentralized I think I would hate Discord. Every time I need to use it, it is a confusing and unpleasant experience for a bunch of reasons. My $0.02: do not use discord.

Nothing else is what I would call "good", but it's so a far sight better than discord. Matrix is probably the best of the "spin up a chat room" type services.