Just reading the headline of this advice column has me shaking my head:
“How Can I Convince My 20-Year-Old Daughter To Devote Her Entire Adult Life To Taking Care Of Her Autistic Brother”
How can you be so unself-aware that even asking the question would ever cross your mind!? 🤦🏼♂️
@KingShawn Without seeing the column, I'm guessing that the headline is a dramatic rephrasing of the *actual* question, which carefully avoided any sentences that would trigger self-awareness. The purpose of the rephrasing, of course, is to lure in readers who wonder how anyone could possible be so lacking in self-awareness. Then you read the actual question, and maybe the headline is a fair summary, or maybe not, but it's definitely clickbait.
@pwinn Normally, I’d agree with you but I read the column. The headline is accurate.
@KingShawn I read those weekly Digg round-ups, too. :)
I think this is exactly what I described: "her entire adult life" doesn't appear in the question as phrased. The questioner is arguably upset as much by the deceit she believes is involved as anything else. So yes, clueless and lacking in self-awareness, but not enough to ask a direct question worded the way the headline words it.
She describes "two bombshells," which are first, "She lied about going for social work," and second, "she has zero plans of moving home and taking over Josh’s care after college and that I’ll have to “figure it out.”" So yeah, that's lacking self-awareness, and the headline is *fair* but still clickbait, I mean, the mom says, "I’m heartbroken that I’ve raised such a selfish kid, and that she would choose money over our family, and over loving her brother. I also have no idea how I’m going to arrange for Josh’s care as I get older." She's in a tough spot! Too tough, apparently, for her to see her own selfishness. But she never actually directly asked the question in the headline.
