@delawen

Why not:

Periodical reminder that if someone,
~~from a less privileged group~~
**whoever they are,**
tells you you are
~~using your privilege against them~~
**hurting them in some way,**
the first step is to shut up and listen.
The second step is to do work to understand why they feel like that.
**The third step is to evaluate their claims rationally.**
And the
~~third~~
**fourth**
step is to
~~work on changing yourself~~
**either change your behaviour, or explain to them why you are dismissing their arguments — depending on the outcome of the previous step.**

?