When someone tells you they are having a gender affirming surgery, please don’t say “but you don’t need it!”. I’m very tired of hearing that. It’s not as supportive as you think it is
@danirabbit
> When someone tells you they are having a gender affirming surgery, please don’t say “but you don’t need it!”
It's gobsmacking that people say that.
I guess they're pushing back against the dogma that people who haven't had the surgery aren't really trans yet (for the purposes of bathroom access etc)? But thanks for pointing out that they're addressing that pushback to the wrong people.
@strypey this is about facial feminization surgery. It’s been difficult to explain to people that I’m not having cosmetic surgery, I’m having reconstructive surgery. I’ve been compared to celebrities who get unnecessary plastic surgery or had people straight up say, “Oh no!”. It’s like dude I put a lot of thought into this it’s not something I haven’t carefully considered
@danirabbit
> I’m having reconstructive surgery. I’ve been compared to celebrities who get unnecessary plastic surgery
Just. Wow. Do people say that to friends who are having laser surgery to correct their vision? Again, gobsmacking.
Are these comments on here or OTHER social media or by users of other social media.
Surgery is difficult, so I wish you well with this and wish you a safe and speedy recovery.
@danirabbit
I'm sorry to hear that. Good on you for ignoring them and just doing the right thing for you.
@zleap @strypey people in real life!