🎓 Dr. Freemo 🇳🇱 @freemo@social.cleverlibre.org

I feel like if you spend 14 days on a ships rudder in order to flee to another country you should just automatically get citizenship.

@Baley Well normally shrooms arent able to talk... though in this case I suspect they can :)

@Baley Hahaha, fair... Now I just picture some canadian going "Come at me ya hoser".. then as they reign blow after blow upon me going "Sorry" every time a hit lands :)

@Baley Ahh, Canadians are generally a good bunch. Though I've found they have some of the same problems in this context. They tend to be very poor at confrontation, and that can often translate over to shyness as well. They just hate to disapoints so can be hard for them to reject someone I guess. All that politeness makes it hard to do the metaphorical wake up call I guess.

That said they arent nearly as disfunctional as Americans overall, that would be hard to do.

@Baley Yea being "subtle" or shy and expecting some mind reading I think is a flaw of both sexes, at least in america. Honestly, no offense to you as I dont know you and dont mean to include you, but dating in the USA is generally very childish compared to other countries I've lived and dated in.

@Baley Yea agreed, and i commented about that earlier. Context is everything. Im not sure id go so far as to say courting is needed. Ideally in public you start a conversation and read the persons comfort with you before you jump in with any sort of compliment that is too personal.

I think I agree on the point that women want boundaries and I think many men dont understand it and care a lot less about their own bundaries and project that on others. Because men are so often encouraged to be the initiator I think we more often have this sense of wishing women would push passed our faux boundaries (shyness basically) and incorrectly assume women probably want the same.

@Baley Well I am glad you werent offended, sorry I startled you.

I think the problem is maybe men and women are a bit different in this regard. Men, at least most men, would be quite happy to hear a woman finds him handsome in some way. So we treat women the way we would want to be treated thinking it would make them happy, when in fact it may just make them afraid.

@Baley I had mentioned to you once that you had pretty eyes in a picture... Did you feel hurt by this or offended (I hope not)?

While I do agree that neither eyes nor breasts should be anything to feel is an acomplishment, and I'd agree real accomplishments and the praise there of is far more meaningful... I think many people feel better about themselves the more physically attractive they are. Maybe this is a bad thing, but I think most people feel better when they think others see them as beautiful.

@mzan I cant think of why i would need that for security really...

@robryk I'd have to see it in action to really get an opinion of that.

@mzan Thats common for most languages actually where primitive are immutable and passed by value and all other types are passed by reference. This is true for Ruby and Java for example.

Different languages define primitives differently for example in Java strings are immutable but passed by reference so effectively the same as passed by value for these purposes. In ruby however strings are mutable.

@mzan haha

@VoxDei True, depending on the context lovely eyes might make someone uncomfortable too. Like I wouldnt say it to a colleague at work, and probably not to a complete stranger i didnt at least talk to first.

@Moon Well lets face it, it could be someone pretending to be him. What the fuck do I know.

But his interactions feel real... I feel like if he used a team he would be more chatty. But he responds like I'd expect a famous person to respond... as if they are short on time but dont want to be rude.

@Moon I mean he has actively responded and had conversations with people, including me... It appears to be him speaking.

I wouldnt be surprised if a media team suggested jokes to him which he may have picked and shared here. But I still suspect it is mostly him doing the posting and interacting.

Why is it that it is perfectly acceptable and even sweet to tell a stranger "You have lovely eyes" but quite rude and deplorable to tell a stronger "You have lovely breasts"... What are the rUlES! someone TELL ME THE RULES!

@Moon I suspect it isnt his media team. I could be wrong but I am pretty sure he handles his own account.

He also doesnt just cross post, he actively responds to and interacts with people around mastodon.